Want to get marry to a person but family is opposing the marriage. How to deal with this situation? This is our advice on spiritual journey when person who asked question has already took the 7 day RajYoga course and also listens to daily Gyaan Murli of Shiv baba. Still, such thoughts of marriage arises, so here is the Shrimat.
Original Email received in Dec 2018 from a Kumari
I have waited to ask this question for so long I hope you will consider and answer it as it might seem silly to some but for me it is my life. I am in a relationship with a person and want to get married to him. But his family is against love marriages. So much that when he talked about us to them one of the family members tried to attempt sucide. Neither I nor he can talk to them about it. I don't understand how to make them accept us. Please help me . suggest any meditation or help me by giving sakash to them. Anything. Please help me. I can not think of being with anyone but him. Please. you and God are the only hopes for me.
Please guide me towards writing my marriage with him in my destiny. Please consider and answer me.
Our Email Response + Guidance
Good morning Sister
So you asked about family and relationships. Your attraction towards each other can be understood, but we ask you: Is it everything? Do you have no other aim and purpose in your life? Certainly you will have other important tasks and dreams to fulfill. Here is our response:
What is love?
First love seems to be everything - as if your whole world is limited to that person you love.
Constantly then the face of that person appears before you
You get thoughts and you begin to imagine the future with that soul (person)
You create imaginations in mind that this will happen. This is actually a desire.
Then after marriage, love seems more a physical attraction.
Then all above definitions of love does not stay
After all, love does not last much long. In actuality, love that is divine, unconditional and universal, love which is constant and unbaised only shall last long. That is is Soul conscious, not body conscious.
Why?
Answer:
Any relationship where there is body consciousness, does not last long. Physical transformation is a law of world. With this, relationship becomes weak in many ways. If you fall in love with a 'person', then know that person (appearance, features, behavior) changes with time. But if you love the 'personality', then it is a pure love. A good heart does not become old.
What is the best way?
Answer:
Love is the reason for world. Love is the reality. But always remember this slogan:
'Loving one person is 'attachment'.
Loving every soul in world is real 'detachment'
Loving matter or material possessions is 'madness'
Above all, a husband and wife MUST have respect for each other in all ways. This is a tread for lng lasting happy relationship.
God taught us to love all the souls. Everyone. Equally. Because all we are a part of this plan - world drama. We all are children of God.
By giving this godly message, I expect from you that you will try and conquer your thoughts and not engage in marriage.
I know and understand your situation. Love is a feeling so beautiful. So beautiful that it can cover the intelligence of the soul. You have now been given the god's advice - to live the life with ''Purity'' and that is possible only when you not engage in marriage. Or if you wish to marry someone, why not marry God - Supreme soul. (Source: Purpose of life)
You can always share your thoughts. We will guide you.
Even if you marry, as you now have received the message of purity, try and stay pure. There are MANY coupes you stay pure even after marriage. BUT it is difficult and therefore baba does not advice this.
However, as you are so connected with that particular soul that you wish to marry at any cost, what can we do. No matter the cost of anything? Isn't it? Love also means ''To sacrifice''.
The whole story of maya is told to you. How love works and why Shiv baba does not permit marriage in this time when Maya (5 vices) are at peak.
I hope your decision shall not cause grief to you in the future.
Lastly, sister Shivani adviced you to try to convince with patience and peace. See if this works. Giving, sending them positive vibrations may result. But if nothing works, then you know that your life wants to give you more than this. Doors to God is always open.
Watch: Awakening with Brahma Kumaris episodes on this YouTube channel.
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Should I marry? (guidance - Post)
Shrimat on Marriage (Hindi audio)
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