Question /Problem of a wife who lives away from husband and in-laws, who keeps away from her and wants divorce. Sister needs advice on how to go forward in life.
Original Question asked via Email :
Nister , I am 29 years old married since 3 years.right from marriage there been many disturbances in our relationship.2 years ago we were about to separate but compromised. now again we are in the same situation.i am ready to compromise but my in-laws are not in a position to understand me.due to some of my health conditions I am living near to my office as I can't do journey daily.visiting my inlaws in holidays and weekends. My husband is not ready to live with me as that is little far from his office.but my in laws have made that as a point to give me divorce from my husband.they are creating rumours also that I have extra marital affairs and so I am living separate. They are believing a horoscope written by a pandit that I will have extra marrital affiar with someone after having a child with my husband. They have strong feeling that I should give birth to only a male child not at all a girl child. I am struggling from weeks with this, not able to dare to take divorce as how my life will be after divorce? What my colleagues think of me? How to go forward in life?
Our Email Response (Answer)
Dear Sister, your letter about - ''Family, husband and in-laws..'' is received and read. Here is our response.
Now what is the state to your relationship with wife and family? It is better?
1. You are living alone and that is also a good thing. You can use this as in your benefit. Self awareness, Introversion and meditation are divine aspects of ife which are more easily experienced in solitude.
2. Why?
No matter what difficulty in life one have, if one makes the self powerful then obstacles will be finished.
3. How?
Try and wake up little early in morning - sit in silence and practice 'Swamaan'. If you are connected to Brahma Kumari Ishwariya Vidhyalay, then you would know the meaning of this word, otherwise also it is easy.
You can practice this Swamaan - Swamaan means self respect. Our Swamaan are - I am a peaceful soul, Pure soul, Powerful soul, Loveful Soul.. (Pavitra Atma, Shanti Swaroop Atma, Shakti swaroop Atma...)
Swamaan commentaries (playlist): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_kYVRgC1PFM&list=PLVTJYOj3fHtHjdxqZhniGRCjWUv6MlRMY&index=1
* Every morning - wake up early (around 5 am) and listen these above commentaries.
Here are more Raja Yog music & guided commentaries: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/rajyoga-meditation-music-commentary
What is Raja Yoga?: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/rajyoga-meditation
(save above links)
Shiv baba is always with you till you chose to be Pure (celibacy). Pluse we always are with you, to guide you. ok?
Awakening episodes in Audio: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/awakening-bk-audio-episodes
(( Awakening episodes speially helped MANY families to solve relationship problems..))
How to handle and sustain family and family life, is all explained in the Awakening with Brahma Kumaris TV program by Sister Shivani.
Awakening Website (for TV program times): http://awakening.in/
Fo general guidance on Husband-Wife relationship, visit here: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/forum/question-answers
Accha
namaste
In God Fatherly World Service
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